web serial, the Tales of MU (http://talesofmu.org). It deals
with real college issues in a fantasy college setting.
One of these issues deals with an sD relationship. It
made me think...about how Christianity is quite well
(IMHO) summarized as a religion of theological submissiveness.
I'm still trying to figure out the terms of a "safe word,"
but I think that more or less, it's a valid comparison.
Obviously, in Christianity, Jesus Christ (God the Son) is the Dom.
That's why we (I am a Christian, in case you couldn't tell)
call him Lord (in Latin, Dominus, whence Dominator/Dominatrix).
We obey him, and we obey others, specifically in the style of
obeying Him. Fascinatingly )to me, anyhow), is how Christ qualified
or demonstrated his fitness, for being Lord by his own submissive-
ness to the will of God the Father. It speaks to a general opinion
(as far as I know; I'm not into sD, I just read a lot) that subs
make good (if not the best) Doms, because of the ease of adopting
empathy for the sub. Above all, sD depends absolutely upon the
utter trustworthiness of the Dom's self-restraint. Any use of the
safe word by the sub is admission of either a lack, or betrayal
of trust in the Dom's self-restraint and regard for the life of
the sub. Being able to go through a session without needing to use
it, perhaps especially if (heh-heh) "sorely" tempted to do so,
gives a tremendous rush of passion for all concerned, both for being
pushed so far without not losing trust, and for pushing so far without
losing trustworthiness.
It also is shows just how the whole "if you want to be first,
then serve"-thing works out. If you want to be in charge, then
get on the bottom...sounds like sD to me! Christ died in
the most humiliating and painful method known. So painful
that they used a referent to the means itself to describe
just how painful it was. He did it because it was necessary,
but He did it that way, because it was commanded.
Maybe it's just the pervert in me, but this perspective makes me
feel as if the vicissitudes of life are more tolerable knowing
that "Dom" will reel me back, if I use that wonderful Safe Word,
"Mercy."